Invariably, the first thing is to figure out what’s going with you. That can be annoying when it’s obviously the other person who is doing and saying the ‘things’. However, you will make the best decision about how to respond when you understand:
🤔 how you are feeling,
🤔 what exact thoughts you are thinking that are making you feel these negative emotions,
🤔 what role you play in this dilemna,
🤔 what you could or would be willing to do -or think- differently,
🤔 how you can get more information about the situation to support your decision making process, and
🤔 who has your back?
After you spend some time getting clear about yourself and grounded, then you can map about a plan to intellectually (not emotionally) respond for the best outcome.
Read more in this article from Susan Peppercorn!